This past weekend I was at the University of Indianapolis with my daughter who decided after this visit to join them next year as a Freshman. It’s a time of transition for me, my family and my daughter. Why should that matter to anyone but us ??
Good question. You see, I’m experiencing a “transition” in my personal life and it just hit me because SEVERAL of my friends have been facing transitions as well. Just this past month the following has happened: four HR friends lost their jobs, one HR friend lost her father and another his mother-in-law, three HR friends are struggling with their marriages and/or divorce. It shouldn’t matter . . . but it does !!
As HR people we don’t take time to know what’s really going on in people’s lives because we think it takes too much time. Also, if we know about what’s happening we might have to DO something with that information. Another pressure we face is we have managers who think that personal situations just get in the way of work that REALLY matters. Ironically, if a personal situation comes up that involves them personally, then they want us to take note. Huh !!
What would happen if we did take notice of people’s personal situations? I don’t mean to take it to a creepy level. Instead, I propose this. Take note of the various highs/lows that people choose to share and SHOW GENUINE INTEREST instead of passing glances and quick “Hello’s”. We keep asking people to handle change, and yet we ignore the transitions and changes that are happening to them everyday. Just by listening, we may relieve the anxiety, pressure and uncertainty of what they’re facing. I take great joy in laughing with, crying with and rejoicing with people I work with and know that because those events truly matter to them, they likewise matter to me.
You can’t keep asking people to put the “H” back in HR if you aren’t willing to model it yourself. It made me think of the great 70’s song “Put a Little Love in Your Heart.” I love the Annie Lennox/Al Green version (in this link).
So, I’m excited about the new transition about to happen as my daughter continues to grow and head off to college next year. I’m excited about your transitions too because it truly makes “the world a better place for you . . . and me . . . you just wait . . . and see !!”